Hit a kids play room at Hamacho park after lunch with my husband who was at Iai tournament, and I let my kids playing around with other kids there without saying anything much as usual. Two boys, probably 1st grade, came in later and they started messing around. And they started picking on my boy playing at slide, as they also started playing there, but seemed like they had their own rule to play. Obviously 2 years old was not being cooperative as he was trying to go down the slide, but apparently those two boys didn't like it. They kept looking at me, I assumed usually those moms would jump in and stop such conflicts, although I wasn't a case. They looked confused as they weren't treated like they would've, and became a little loose and bold. My boy didn't give in, wouldn't stop, kept coming back, the one boy whom I can tell for sure was a little tyrant showed my boy a fist to threat him as he would be punched if he didn't listen to that boy. Off course my son didn't know such his rule, just assumed that boy was playing simply showing his fist. Then a punch on leg, another punch on tummy. I held myself, decided I shouldn't do anything until it gets more seriously physical, as sooner or later boys get in physical troubles. Plus, my son's not a type of a kid who would easily give in by a several punches just like me, rather they were the ones who should be scared of.... Anyhow, I witnessed about 5 punches to my son, then I asked that boy if that was how he was treated at home, which I honestly wanted to know. The boy was again confused by me asking him such a puzzled question, instead of stopping him from punching my son. Then he stopped punching. They kept picking on my son, and one time when my son was playing with a block, those boys started taking away the block from him. That's when they swung my son, and he fell on the floor, started crying. Then the other boys about 5, 6th grades came over, started telling those boys they shouldn't treat such a little kid like that. Good job to those elder boys! Then a mom came over to check out what was going on, then she asked me if I was fine with my son crying on the floor, and I immediately told her he was fine, it was just those boys who couldn't figured out how to play with the younger one. She looked very confused! Ha! Then the all boys started playing together, but somehow those elder ones started picking on those boys who were picking on my son, then playing nicely with my son, all giggling and laughing! Good job to my son, too! You earned it!!
It's very sad if that boy has been treated by his parents or someone close to stop whatever he does by showing a fist, which I'm sure that's the case, because the move he took was very smooth, no hesitation. Maybe they are satisfied with the result that boy actually stops, which seems a perfect accomplishment, but truth is, they are simply copying themselves to that boy, and making him stands alone. I'm sure that's how he's been "communicating" with the other kids at school. If someone shows you a fist, telling you he will hit you if you won't listen to him, how do you feel? Do you enjoy companionship with him? You would think it's a trouble to hang out with him, wouldn't you? That's the result his parents are inviting, but I honestly think they would have never ever imagined such a thing.
The point that I'm trying to say here is that the kids themselves have to find the way to communicate with the others, regardless of age or sex, directly. Parents can only guide them, give them hints, but it has to be them who come up with solutions how to communicate. Adults these days think they should rule everything, but kids themselves have their own logic and theory which may not be reasonable to adults, although they have to try and figure out by themselves. Therefore, I'm trying to stay as an observer as much as I could, let my kids to find their way how to swim the human pool. I love them both very much and forgive me kids, but it'll be good for you before you know it.
Sunday, July 31, 2011
一人で買った！
She was too short the store staff couldn't see her behind the case for about 20 min, but she managed to purchase her favorite ice cream all by herself!一人で買った！
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風呂上がりの黄金芋！
Does she look like me more and more...??Their favorite sweet potato looking cake from Kotobuki do in Ningyocho.
風呂上がりの黄金芋！
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tea break
Chocolate cake break at Royal Park Hotel in Suitengu while Mo was taking nap. It's a secret to Papa.tea break
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Thursday, July 28, 2011
watching TV...
A travel TV we usually watch before going to bed had Disneyland one last night, and Ton was all over it, and started screaming when they had this be-a-princess studio.
I've always amazed by the power of Disney....
I've always amazed by the power of Disney....
Tuesday, July 26, 2011
grooving
.... and kids danced to the music with mirror ball during dinner.grooving
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Monday, July 25, 2011
misty midtown
After lunch with Uncle Beck, they went to the Akihabara for much needed geeking accompanied with Ton, Mo and me went to Midtown as he requested to have coffee. They had citibank supported event of misty garden at lawn, and it actually felt pretty good and cool. Too bad it run about 10 min every hour, though it was a nice cooling down on a hot day.misty midtown
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Saturday, July 23, 2011
フレンチフライ
Mo's late lunch at Paul Bocuse cafe as he missed it while he was napping, meanwhile Ton was sleeping on a stroller. Very laid back day with not too hot, wonderful weather.フレンチフライ
Originally uploaded by piroko_kuroda
new hat & carrot salad
New blue hat and awesome carrot salad from Daylesford for lunch at Farmers' market at UN University in Omote Sando. And do you see resemblance of his face/angle in the below photo of Ton with hair sticking out with static...?new hat & carrot salad
Originally uploaded by piroko_kuroda
Friday, July 22, 2011
Bye bye Keith!
Thank you for love and care to our kids since they joined the school. Good luck and maybe see you in US some day!Bye bye Keith!
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Monday, July 18, 2011
my work for the day
... and here's what I worked at the Borne Lund while kids were checking out their toy. It's a house and the toy is called Playstix, and I really enjoyed it.my work for the day
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AquaPlay
Borne Lund in Roppongi Hills had this Swedish toy with actual water in the store, and off course kids immediately dived in the moment they saw it. I guess we must buy if for this summer....AquaPlay
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lunch@gianicolo
Roman Pizza restaurant at Azabu Juban while mo was napping.lunch@gianicolo
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Sunday, July 17, 2011
kiki eating french-fry
Lunch at Homeworks in Hiroo while Mo taking nap.kiki eating french-fry
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Friday, July 15, 2011
ドクターイエロー！
I saw this Dr. Yellow bullet train twice today at Hamamatsucho!ドクターイエロー！
Originally uploaded by piroko_kuroda
がんばれパパ
Papa working on his 6 week Chisel using kids as weights...がんばれパパ
Originally uploaded by piroko_kuroda
Sunday, July 10, 2011
一人でできた！
Too hot to stay in the outside, we escaped to Roppongi Hills. Mo fell asleep on the way, so Chikage went to an adventure of buying a chocolate scone all by herself by taking escalator down and up. She enjoys running errands, especially buying stuff...一人でできた！
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はなえとアイスクリーム
Lunch with Auntie Hanae at Bondi Cafe, followed by Baskin Robbins. Thanks for the ice cream!はなえとアイスクリーム
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Thursday, July 07, 2011
lunch@paul
Mushroom crape for solo lunch at PAUL in Izumi Garden.lunch@paul
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Wednesday, July 06, 2011
短冊
... and Mo's wish says "want to be a bus driver". Very practical.短冊
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七夕のお願いごと
Star Festival today, and her wish is "want to be Cinderella". She switched from Snow White to Cinderella as Cinderella's dress is pink...七夕のお願いごと
Originally uploaded by piroko_kuroda
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